A Help In Grief

A Help in Grief

Coping with the death of someone close

Authors: Julian Evans, Ben Evans, Phil West & Clive Anderson

Publisher: Patula Books

ISBN: 978-0-9541947-3-4

A short book of 145 pages written in an accessible and friendly style empathising with the reader. Outlines both the practical elements surrounding a death and its consequences and the emotional journey as we mourn and grieve. The aim is to provide clear, straightforward advice and help.

The authors are a father and son, a local GP and a minister. All have lost very close relatives and write from personal and professional experience.

Foreword by Debbie Thrower.

More information is available on the Patula Books website.

About the authors

JULIAN's late wife, Margaret, (Ben's Mum) died very suddenly aged 55 years. With Ben, his youngest of three sons, the idea of this book emerged from the tragedy though not until some years after.

Julian is a forest scientist, has written many technical books on forestry, and was formerly the Forestry Commission's Chief Research Officer (S) and subsequently Professor of Forestry at Imperial College London. He is in the leadership team of his church and is a non-executive director of the Christian international relief and development charity, Tearfund. He owns a small woodland.

He was appointed OBE in 1997 for services 'To Forestry and the Third World'. Almost three years after Margaret's death he remarried also, a little confusingly, to Margaret. They live in Ellisfield, Hampshire.

BEN was 19 when he lost his mum whilst at university in Exeter. Just 2 weeks previous he had been at home with the family for Christmas with no indication of what was around the corner. The weeks immediately after his loss were spent with his Dad, brothers Jon and Stephen, and sister-in-law Christina.

Today, Ben is partner in a learning consultancy - EvansLewis - as well as a Training Officer for The Royal British Legion. He is an Associate Member of the Chartered Institute of Personnel and Development and a registered Myers-Briggs practitioner.

Ben is 28 and lives with his wife, Anna, in Walton-on-Thames, Surrey.

PHIL is a GP in the Hampshire village of Four Marks. He is married to Ruth and they live with their daughter and two sons.

Phil trained to be a doctor at St George's Hospital, Tooting. During his GP training he also worked in community psychiatry outpatient clinics. Phil lived and worked at Mseleni Hospital, in rural KwaZulu Natal, South Africa between 1998-2000. During this time he cared for many people infected with the HIV virus and also had friends and colleagues lose lives to this terrible disease. His mother was diagnosed with cancer shortly before his return to the UK, dying at the age of 63 only two months after the birth of Phil and Ruth's first child. Phil is on the leadership team of his local church. He enjoys digital photography and plays the cello and bass guitar.

CLIVE Anderson is a minister of the Butts Evangelical Church in Alton, Hampshire, having previously been Minister of a Church in Streatham, South London. This means he is often connected with bereavement and its effects in the lives of many, and has conducted hundreds of funeral services.

Clive has wide-ranging interests, including history, sport and railways. He also leads tours to the Middle East and around the British Museum in London, where the Egyptian mummy rooms prove to be the most popular. He has written and co-authored a number of books, and is married with one son.


Travel Through Egypt
Land of Moses, monuments and mummies

God's Trees
Trees, forests and wood in the Bible

A Help In Grief
Coping with the death of someone close

Gunpowder, treason and plot
The gruesome story of Guy Fawkes

Discovering the Hidden Lamb

Escape from Danger

A Desperate Search

Travel Through Israel
Land of Promise, Faith and Beauty

Through the British Museum - with the Bible

Opening up Nahum

Opening up 2 Peter

Face2Face Sennacherib
Encountering Assyria's great and terrifying ruler

CH Spurgeon
In the footsteps of the 'Prince of Preachers'